Keeping your focus on Christ in the middle of difficult circumstances
One of the hardest parts about walking through grief is learning where to place your focus.
When difficult circumstances hit, it’s so easy to become consumed by them. The fear. The uncertainty. The overwhelm. The constant feeling like you can’t quite catch your breath.
And if I’m honest, this is something I still struggle with.
It’s easy for me to get caught up in everything happening around me and lose sight of Christ in the middle of it. Sometimes I focus so much on the fire itself that I forget what God may be doing through it.
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Letting Go of the Need to Explain Your Choices to Others
I’ve always had a tendency to overexplain things.
Not because anyone necessarily asked, but because I felt like I needed to justify what I was doing. As if my decisions needed to make sense to everyone around me in order to be valid.
After Jon passed, that feeling got even stronger.
I found myself explaining things that, when I look back now, really didn’t need an explanation at all.
I explained why I was able to stay home with my kids.
I explained how I could afford to add an addition onto our house.
I explained why I stopped wearing my wedding ring after nine months.
I explained why I chose to keep homeschooling instead of putting my kids in school.
I explained why I moved from Maine to New Hampshire.
And later…
I explained when I started dating.
I explained when I got remarried.
No matter what I did, it seemed like there were opinions.
Some people thought I was moving forward too quickly.
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