In Part One, I shared the shock that I went through when my husband passed. In Part Two, I shared how I was helped through the devastating shock. In this post, I want to give you some ways to navigate through the fog and difficulty of suddenly losing your spouse.
Shock can display itself in many ways. If you have lost a loved one unexpectedly and are grappling with the shock, here are some strategies that may help you cope.
- Rely on the support of your loved ones during this challenging time. They genuinely want to be there for you, so don't hesitate to accept their help. Understand that your thoughts and emotions may be overwhelming right now, making it difficult to navigate through this situation. Allow your loved ones to step in and assist you. Let them make the meals, help with your kids, and handle the visitors and phone calls.
- Be kind and gentle with yourself. After experiencing such a profound loss, you will feel a huge range of emotions. Don't place unnecessary pressure on yourself and give yourself the space to grieve. Allow others to help you think through the decisions that must be made right away, and take the time you need before making any major decisions.
- Prioritize rest as you navigate this difficult period. It's possible that you were already exhausted prior to this loss and the shock may further disrupt your sleep. Whenever you can, if at all possible, make it a point to rest. Take a nap while your kids are napping, allow them some screen time while you rest on the couch, or ask someone to care for your children for a few hours so that you can take a much needed break. You need your strength for the days ahead, so do what you can to get rest.
Losing a spouse is life altering and often leaves you in a state of shock. It's important to recognize that during this challenging time, your body and mind may respond with a combination of physical, emotional, and mental symptoms as you try to process what has happened. Remember, you don't have to go through this alone. Lean on the love and support of those who care about you, be patient with yourself, and prioritize much-needed rest.
Although it may not feel like it at the moment, please know that you will be okay. In the face of loss, it's crucial to reach out for the support and assistance you need. Remember, I am here for you and willing to help.
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