Losing a loved one is an incredibly challenging experience, both emotionally and mentally. During these moments of grief, it can often feel overwhelming to know how best to support those who are experiencing such profound loss. In these times, finding the right words or actions may seem impossible.
No need to worry. I have simple tips you can implement, which will guide you to provide immeasurable comfort to those who are grieving and make a significant impact in their healing journey.
Read more...
On July 23, 2009 Jon had a bronchoscopy that punctured his right lung – his good lung. The doctor intubated him immediately to give him a fighting chance. The doctors then realized his body had rejected the donor cells from his second transplant, resulting in graft vs. host disease, and that disease had caused his lungs to become very brittle and stiff, which was the cause of his cough and breathing challenges. There wasn't any treatment or cure for that, and there was no way we could have known. As the doctor was leading me to see Jon in the Critical Care Unit, I collapsed from the shock. I knew I was going to lose my husband.
Read more...
Jon's stem cell transplant was rough, and after 21 days in the hospital, he was discharged in early December. After the new year in 2007, radiation began, which came with its own complications. He developed a severe case of shingles which required hospitalization. After completing radiation, he had a scan that showed his Hodgkins Lymphoma was gone! We were overjoyed! There was something else on the scan that needed a biopsy, but the doctors weren't concerned. That “something else” turned out to be Non Hodgkin's-Lymphoma, and some of this new cancer was in his lungs. He had to start treatments right away, and there was talk of a possible second stem cell transplant. We left the doctor's office devastated once again.
Read more...
For those of you who are unfamiliar with how I became a widow, I wanted to provide some context. This is a very abbreviated version of everything that happened, but I will be filling in details in future posts. I will also be sharing some of Jon’s blog as well, so you can get to know what an amazing man he was. This is part 1 of 3.
Losing a husband is not something I ever thought would happen to me. When I said “till death do us part”, I didn’t realize that I would actually live this at a young age.
In 2005, my husband, who was 29, was diagnosed with cancer, and our world was turned upside down. I don’t think anyone ever plans on cancer, but when a 29 year old youth pastor, with two little kids receives that diagnosis, it’s completely unexpected.
Read more...
Welcome to my blog,
Life after Loss with Lisa
I am so glad you are here! I am a homeschooling, piano teaching, DIY-ing Mom of two young adults.
I lost my husband Jon in 2009 after a 3 ½ year battle with cancer. At the time, our kids were 4 and 6.
I used to think that widowhood had an expiration date. Like after a particular number of years, everything would be “back to normal”, or when a certain milestone was reached, it wouldn’t be a struggle anymore.
But I have realized that being a widow is a LIFELONG journey.
Read more...
